Eventually, I pulled a ball of fabric from behind the couch.
But this story isnât just about a hat or adorable three-year-old boy. Itâs about learning how to pull people toward us by fighting the marketing assumptions we make that pushes them away.
Hereâs ways to fish, not jump in the water with a net:
Tip #1: Serve them
Even if your readers, clients, and customers are screaming like a three-year-old missing his hat, approach them from a position of serving.
Not a servant. Not less than. Not taking their crap. But from the mindset of providing them the knowledge, tools, services, and products only you can offer thatâll solve their problems.
You donât have to make up problems for folx; you only gotta solve the ones they already have.
Examples
- Publish value and insights without asking for anything (blogs, Xitter threads, YouTube, podcasts, art, etc.)
- Watch and listen for their problems. Donât just badger them about what they want. Stay observant
- Build solutions to problems. Show pieces of the creation-in-the-making. When your system works, peopleâll come to you wanting to know how you did it
Tip #2: Obsess over clarity
Create a vision of your ideal reader.
Be like my cutie-pie nephew: know what you want.
Itâs important to ask what your readers/clients/customers are interested in, and even more important to know who you want to work with, market toâand who you donât.
You want magical unicorns coming to you, so donât chase sparkly horses with fake horns.
To do
Make a list of your ideal reader or client, and ONLY market to them. If youâre a sci-fi writer, focus on other sci-fi writers and readers.
Yes, people who donât read sci-fi have friends who do, but to become a human magnet, focus on those already scaldingly interested in what youâre providing.
Remove everything and anyone thatâs not aligned with your vision.
Itâs better to have ten people running to your orbit, than chase a thousand, lukecold people into theirs.
Ask yourself:
- Do they need what I have?
- Do they see value in what Iâm offering?
- Can they buy what Iâm selling?
Tip #3: Be like Isaac Asimov
No, not his writing style, love of small spaces, or adoration of letters â he wrote 90,000! â but his definition.
When you hear âAsimov,â what do you think of? Science Fiction. I, Robot. Author.
Asimov was well-defined. So well defined that many donât know he was also a Professor of Biochemistry.
How to define yourself
- Decide what you want to be known for
- Choose a field(s) you can be great at
- Find the simplest way to package yourself clearly for your readers/clients
Oh, and my nephewâs hat that I found behind the couch? This is what it looked like: |